From my Hart: Wedding Do’s & Don’t s

Herro friends! Today I come to you with a list of things that I’ve once again, complied based on experience wedding planning, in conversations with friends and or all on my own.

Our wedding is only 141 days away and I cannot wait. I’m also trying very hard to be present and soak up these wonderful moments.

Without further a due- lets dive into my newest wedding do’s and don’t s.


Do: RSVP in accordance to the date listed on the invitation.

Don’t: RSVP late, RSVP in a way other than instructed (texting when an RSVP online or via mail was requested) or assume the couple knows you will attend.

Bonus don’t: Don’t try and accomplish it all. If you have another predetermined event, RSVP no.

The exception to this is if the wedding is more casual in nature or events are at separate times.

A good rule of thumb is that your “yes” RSVP will reflect you attending the entire event: ceremony through the dinner & so on.

Do: Respect the way in which the invitation is addressed.

Don’t: Add additional guests that were not listed in the addressing of the invitation. For more clarification see this previous post.


Do: Send congratulations, support, and best wishes to the happy couple

Don’t: Ask financial questions, send personal requests, berate or speak negatively towards decisions the couple has made.

Bonus Don’t: Constantly compare.

There have been countless weddings in the history of time. The couple is going to do some things similar to and different from other weddings you’ve attended or been in. While it might seem helpful, constant comparison to a way another couple chose to execute their big day, is not.

Wedding Website:

Do: Use it!

If a couple send out a wedding website, please consult it! There will be cute anecdotes about how the couple met, who’s in the wedding and pictures.

However, important information, such as hotel reservation, travel, registry and day-of / venue information is listed there for the ease of communicating with guests!

Don’t: Ignore it or share it.

Check save the dates, invitations, and other means of communication to see if the couple is using a wedding website. If there is a passcode, it’s safe to say the couple wants to keep things among invited guests (for whatever reason their heart desires) and you should respect that.


Do: Respect the dress code, if there is one. There is a great chance the Happy Couple is trying to include their guest on setting the mood for their big day.

Don’t: Push the boundaries. It’s a wedding- not a night club.

Our wedding: We have asked our guests to please wear semi-formal attire to our evening, adult only affair. I’ve included the Google definitions below to help as an example.

Women: “Women have a wide range of choices with semi-formal attire. This may include a pantsuit in a dressy fabric, such as silk, cashmere, or satin. A dress or dressy suit with a dressy top, with heels, strappy sandals, or dressy flats may also be worn.”

Men: “Semi-formal means wearing a full suit, with vest optional. A tie is also optional and the shirt should be a simple button down. The biggest difference here for semi-formal attire is that a tie is not necessary.”

Home stretch:

141 days! It sounds like so much time but considering how Christmas is now almost a month ago, these days will fly!

It’s so easy to get caught up into all the nitty-griddy of wedding planning. Thankfully we are done except for our walk thoughts and all the fun to come: bridal shower, bachelorette/bachelor weekends, rehearsal dinner, etc!

As we progress, I’ll be sure to keep you all up to date! Please let me know what other kinds of posts you’d like to see in 2019!

Cheers to the weekend- lets make it fantastic!

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