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From my Hart: The Switch

Hey y’all! I’ve been in a funk recently! A real fearful and depressed mood.

I’m still dealing with bits of the mood, but I decided to make a switch on Sunday and everything has turned around!

I care too much what others think, but I was really unhappy with a few things in our wedding line up. For one, and the huge secret I have not told anyone except my mother- is that I did not love my dress.

I got the dress at a blowout sale for a couple hundred dollars, and it was beautiful, but it was not me. Whenever I would imagine our wedding day- I’d have to remind myself “but that’s not what your dress looks like.”

I was terrified to tell my Mom, and on our way to a bridal show on Sunday, it came out very gently. She agreed with my feelings and we made an appointment to go look Monday after work. You see Tuesday I was scheduled to alter the first dress.

Fast forward to an amazing experience and finding my dream dress- I am genuinely ecstatic! I woke up Tuesday morning with an actual smile on my face. Most importantly, I felt completely at peace.

The next switch I made was regarding my bachelorette party.

I’m very blessed that a dear friend and bridesmaid of mine offered up her lake house for us to us. The lake is my favorite place so I went along with the idea as my bridesmaids picked a weekend that worked best for them and it all just kinda happened.

The closer we got, the more anxious I became. I thought maybe it was because nothing was planned- but then when people began to RSVP and details began to be hashed out- my anxiety grew.

This again was not what I wanted fully- I was settling again.

So I pulled a switch! I quickly looped in my bridal party that I was making a change and pulled the trigger- deleting the first event and rolling out my idea.

It’s local, it’s cheaper, I won’t have to worry about hosting people for a weekend, worrying about people traveling, worrying about what we are going to do, having my friends have to pay for multiple things, and I get to invite more of the people I had to leave out the first time!

We are having a private cooking class followed by a luscious brunch downtown! We can then go shop around or have a few drinks at a bar- and that’s it!

The outpour from friends and the bridal party was wonderful! They all were so excited for the new idea and I was honestly shocked at the friends who were thankful this wasn’t a weekend thing- they loved the day idea! Going back to tradition of you ask me.

So take a deep dive today on this fine Friday. Where can you make the switch in your life? Follow your gut and enjoy everything this life has given you!

Happy FriYAY friends!

From my Hart: Delicious Date

Happy FriYay y’all!

I’ve been busy busy researching Hygge and following incredible bloggers who are curating the homes of my dreams! As we are finally taking down Christmas decorations, we will be rolling out new decor and storage / organization and I will certainly be bringing some of that to the blog!

But for today’s blog post, I’ve got a sweetly delicious date idea for y’all!

Dessert Date Night!

Both my fiancé and I enjoy cooking, but we also love to go out and enjoy a crafted meal. The other night we prepared dinner, ate and then headed out the door for dessert and drinks at one of our favorite spots!

My fiancé had his most favorite creme brûlée & I opted for the apple cobbler.

This date had it all!

It allowed us to get out of the house.

Gave us something new and fun to do we both enjoy.

We got to go to one of our favorite spots.

This date doesn’t break the bank either!

It was a great time. Full disclosure though, this was the night I came down with the horrible virus going around, so I was not feeling great, I couldn’t eat and we didn’t hang out- my fiancé ate and we left. However! We loved the idea and have a few more dessert date nights planned for the future!

Cheers to the weekend, dessert date night & an amazing year!

From my Hart: Wedding Do’s & Don’t s

Herro friends! Today I come to you with a list of things that I’ve once again, complied based on experience wedding planning, in conversations with friends and or all on my own.

Our wedding is only 141 days away and I cannot wait. I’m also trying very hard to be present and soak up these wonderful moments.

Without further a due- lets dive into my newest wedding do’s and don’t s.

RSVP:

Do: RSVP in accordance to the date listed on the invitation.

Don’t: RSVP late, RSVP in a way other than instructed (texting when an RSVP online or via mail was requested) or assume the couple knows you will attend.

Bonus don’t: Don’t try and accomplish it all. If you have another predetermined event, RSVP no.

The exception to this is if the wedding is more casual in nature or events are at separate times.

A good rule of thumb is that your “yes” RSVP will reflect you attending the entire event: ceremony through the dinner & so on.

Do: Respect the way in which the invitation is addressed.

Don’t: Add additional guests that were not listed in the addressing of the invitation. For more clarification see this previous post.

Communication:

Do: Send congratulations, support, and best wishes to the happy couple

Don’t: Ask financial questions, send personal requests, berate or speak negatively towards decisions the couple has made.

Bonus Don’t: Constantly compare.

There have been countless weddings in the history of time. The couple is going to do some things similar to and different from other weddings you’ve attended or been in. While it might seem helpful, constant comparison to a way another couple chose to execute their big day, is not.

Wedding Website:

Do: Use it!

If a couple send out a wedding website, please consult it! There will be cute anecdotes about how the couple met, who’s in the wedding and pictures.

However, important information, such as hotel reservation, travel, registry and day-of / venue information is listed there for the ease of communicating with guests!

Don’t: Ignore it or share it.

Check save the dates, invitations, and other means of communication to see if the couple is using a wedding website. If there is a passcode, it’s safe to say the couple wants to keep things among invited guests (for whatever reason their heart desires) and you should respect that.

Attire:

Do: Respect the dress code, if there is one. There is a great chance the Happy Couple is trying to include their guest on setting the mood for their big day.

Don’t: Push the boundaries. It’s a wedding- not a night club.

Our wedding: We have asked our guests to please wear semi-formal attire to our evening, adult only affair. I’ve included the Google definitions below to help as an example.

Women: “Women have a wide range of choices with semi-formal attire. This may include a pantsuit in a dressy fabric, such as silk, cashmere, or satin. A dress or dressy suit with a dressy top, with heels, strappy sandals, or dressy flats may also be worn.”

Men: “Semi-formal means wearing a full suit, with vest optional. A tie is also optional and the shirt should be a simple button down. The biggest difference here for semi-formal attire is that a tie is not necessary.”

Home stretch:

141 days! It sounds like so much time but considering how Christmas is now almost a month ago, these days will fly!

It’s so easy to get caught up into all the nitty-griddy of wedding planning. Thankfully we are done except for our walk thoughts and all the fun to come: bridal shower, bachelorette/bachelor weekends, rehearsal dinner, etc!

As we progress, I’ll be sure to keep you all up to date! Please let me know what other kinds of posts you’d like to see in 2019!

Cheers to the weekend- lets make it fantastic!

From my Hart: 2019 Floodgate

Happy New Year everyone! I hope that you had a wonderful Christmas & a safe and Happy New Year.

I unfortunately came down with that nasty virus that’s going around the day after Christmas and have been knocked out, since.

I’m still taking it very slow and easy as to not backtrack on the progress I’ve made. With that, I was thinking of my mental health. I was really able to push everything aside and be present and focus on Christmas.

As I was just explaining to my fiancé on New Years Eve: “I feel as though all of those thoughts are pushing against the gate, waiting to rush me like a flood come the New Year.”

This is the daily mental struggle and balancing act I’ve referenced before. I’ve got A LOT to accomplish in just January alone of 2019: DC trip for engagement photos, bridesmaids trip for the last dress, visit my fiancé’s family for a late Christmas, cake testing and start my new position at work… just to name a few.

So usually I panic. However, I’m trying very hard to balance my thoughts so I am peaceful and present.

I’m going to deal with what is on my plate, in that moment, of that day, only. It’s how I enjoyed the holidays so much & it’s how I want 2019 to be.

We all have things going on, but we should all want to fully enjoy each day. Each day is a gift, we are not guaranteed tomorrow. I will not waste my present worrying over a day that I might not come to see.

Now, that is fully easier said than done. But that’s my goal & I’m gonna fake it until I make it!

What are you goals, resolutions or reflections for this New Year? Let’s make it the best yet!

Cheers to 2019

From my Hart: Last post of 2018!

Morning all! & Happy FriYAY!

Today is December 21, how that’s already here I’m not sure! This year has FLOOOOOWN by & been filled with incredible blessings!

We are engaged, bought our first home, move forward in our careers & so much more!

Today is quite the gloomy day, and to be honest- I went to bed angry and am still in a mood. But as always, I’m choosing happiness! I’m going to fake it until I make it and spend time with family today!

With that thought, I’ll be signing off for 2018. Thank you for allowing me to share my ups and downs with you all year! Thank you for following along & sharing with me too!

2019 is going to be full of adventures! Take the last few days of 2018 though, and soak them up! Indulge in self care, spend time with loved ones, and enjoy each day!

My wish for you, is a 2019 full of peace and happiness! Merry Christmas & Happy New Year!!

From my Hart: Dear Gigi

Dear Gigi,

It’s been one year, and I wish I could report that I’m doing alright. I am overall; it’s been a whirlwind year and so many wonderful blessings have happened, but when it comes to you… I’m unfortunately still in such denial.

I’ve realized over the past few days, that I can’t allow myself to sink into the utter realization of how permeate your death is. Why just on Sunday, as you know, Mom asked me to go to a private service to light a candle for you, and I couldn’t even say no. I just kept shaking my head, hoping the word would come out before the tears.

It really is a poor coping mechanism, I’m fully aware; and I’ll be sure to chat to my therapist about it on our next visit… don’t you worry.

I’m just pissed. You should have gotten our save the date; hell- I should have been able to hear your screams of excitement all the way from the lake when he proposed. You should be down the hall in the guest room. You should, you should, you should, for so many things this year.

And you were. I hear your voice so vividly. I see your signs. I just, don’t like that this is it now. One year later and this is our new normal; our new way of communicating.

So forgive me for not being Miss Positive right now, because this sucks and I need to let myself wallow. I miss you.

And as dumb as it may sound, I feel like I’ve lost you all over again. The anniversary of your passing makes its permanent. You won’t call me, or walk thought that door, like I’ve been lying to myself that you would one day. This really has happened.

You were just driving down the road, and in the blink of an eye you were standing there in front of Jesus. That quickly. That permanently.

Here I am, sobbing over Old Bay sausages, attempting to cook dinner and trying to let myself process this. Usually turning to you in times like this, but learning as I have over the year- that I need to keep keeping on.

You’re hands down my best friend. My partner in crime. The sister God knew our Moms wouldn’t be able to handle so he made us cousins haha. Just listening to your voicemail cheers me right up.

I love you. I miss you. I know I’ll see you again, it’s just adjusting to this in between that’s yucky for now. Thank you for incredible memories for 25 years.

From my Hart: Christmas Decor

Y’all! I’ve been waiting my entire life to decorate my very own home for Christmas. As I’ve mentioned before, our realtor was always sure to comment on two things: which wall did you want to knock down & where are you putting the Christmas Tree?

I’ve had such fond memories of trinkets passed down, Christmas decor & items that have gone to pass over the years; like the mechanical and musical Mr. & Mrs. Clause my grandparents had. As you may imagine, I’ve been stashing away a lot of Christmas decorations over the years. There is a lot I’ve not included in this post and a lot of items we didn’t even put out!

I am so excited to bring to you a compilation of how my fiance and I have decorated our home for our first Christmas! To kick things off- here’s a picture of my supportive fiance and I decorating 🙂

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First Floor

 

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Up the stairs we go!

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Other Highlights

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I hope you’ve enjoyed our mini tour! May all your days be merry & bright!