From my Hart: Wedding Do’s & Don’t s

Herro friends! Today I come to you with a list of things that I’ve once again, complied based on experience wedding planning, in conversations with friends and or all on my own.

Our wedding is only 141 days away and I cannot wait. I’m also trying very hard to be present and soak up these wonderful moments.

Without further a due- lets dive into my newest wedding do’s and don’t s.


Do: RSVP in accordance to the date listed on the invitation.

Don’t: RSVP late, RSVP in a way other than instructed (texting when an RSVP online or via mail was requested) or assume the couple knows you will attend.

Bonus don’t: Don’t try and accomplish it all. If you have another predetermined event, RSVP no.

The exception to this is if the wedding is more casual in nature or events are at separate times.

A good rule of thumb is that your “yes” RSVP will reflect you attending the entire event: ceremony through the dinner & so on.

Do: Respect the way in which the invitation is addressed.

Don’t: Add additional guests that were not listed in the addressing of the invitation. For more clarification see this previous post.


Do: Send congratulations, support, and best wishes to the happy couple

Don’t: Ask financial questions, send personal requests, berate or speak negatively towards decisions the couple has made.

Bonus Don’t: Constantly compare.

There have been countless weddings in the history of time. The couple is going to do some things similar to and different from other weddings you’ve attended or been in. While it might seem helpful, constant comparison to a way another couple chose to execute their big day, is not.

Wedding Website:

Do: Use it!

If a couple send out a wedding website, please consult it! There will be cute anecdotes about how the couple met, who’s in the wedding and pictures.

However, important information, such as hotel reservation, travel, registry and day-of / venue information is listed there for the ease of communicating with guests!

Don’t: Ignore it or share it.

Check save the dates, invitations, and other means of communication to see if the couple is using a wedding website. If there is a passcode, it’s safe to say the couple wants to keep things among invited guests (for whatever reason their heart desires) and you should respect that.


Do: Respect the dress code, if there is one. There is a great chance the Happy Couple is trying to include their guest on setting the mood for their big day.

Don’t: Push the boundaries. It’s a wedding- not a night club.

Our wedding: We have asked our guests to please wear semi-formal attire to our evening, adult only affair. I’ve included the Google definitions below to help as an example.

Women: “Women have a wide range of choices with semi-formal attire. This may include a pantsuit in a dressy fabric, such as silk, cashmere, or satin. A dress or dressy suit with a dressy top, with heels, strappy sandals, or dressy flats may also be worn.”

Men: “Semi-formal means wearing a full suit, with vest optional. A tie is also optional and the shirt should be a simple button down. The biggest difference here for semi-formal attire is that a tie is not necessary.”

Home stretch:

141 days! It sounds like so much time but considering how Christmas is now almost a month ago, these days will fly!

It’s so easy to get caught up into all the nitty-griddy of wedding planning. Thankfully we are done except for our walk thoughts and all the fun to come: bridal shower, bachelorette/bachelor weekends, rehearsal dinner, etc!

As we progress, I’ll be sure to keep you all up to date! Please let me know what other kinds of posts you’d like to see in 2019!

Cheers to the weekend- lets make it fantastic!

From my Hart: 40-Hour Work Week

For the entirety of my career, there has been an undercurrent of communication on the topic of the 40-hour work week. I’ve had four jobs since graduation and each tackled the 40-hour work week differently.

First job:

Here there was no overtime & I was hourly; we had to manipulate our hours so that we didn’t go over the 40-hour work week, which was both a blessing and a curse. With constant events at varying times, my hours were long and often kept me away from normal weekends.

Second job:

No overtime once again, however I was switched to salary! The office closed every Friday at noon. We were still paid, and accrued PTO based on a 40-hour work week. At first, I was curious how this would work since everyone else we dealt with, the government and other businesses, did not follow this schedule.

It went so smoothly! We were more productive during the week as to meet this Friday by noon “deadline” and were never met by any opposition, only jealousy, from the groups and businesses we worked with.

Not to mention we were able to accomplish so much more in our personal lives and hardly ever had to miss work Monday-Thursday for personal appointments. We gave it our all Monday-Thursday and Friday until noon, and were able to enjoy our little extended weekends.

Third job:

This company was a very unhealthy place for me. It started out as the golden opportunity, but I quickly learned this to be a “front.” Not only was the pay, environment, morals, and daily tasks, not as advertised, the work schedule was not either.

I was told that you could come and go as you please- but this only held true if you were one of the two owners. The other employees, myself and one other person, were to be on call at all times, with no guarantee of work. So, while this company pitched a great work schedule, it- like so many other aspects- did not pan out.

Current job:

I am officially a year into working at my current company however on day one I was asked what hours I wanted to work. Shocked doesn’t begin to cover it haha.

What’s interesting, and nice, is if the job gets done, they don’t care what hours you make that happen in. For me, I started as an hourly employee working 32 hours a week and worked my schedule depending on other appointments, etc. throughout the week! If I had a doctor’s appointment on a Wednesday at 2 p.m., I could work longer on Monday perhaps, to offset the time away for the appointment. This also allowed me to nanny a few times during the week.

I quickly learned the ropes and moved into 40 hours each week. I’ve decided to work 8-4 to beat traffic on Monday-Friday. However, this week (thanks time change) I’ve been in the office earlier and earlier each day and choose to shave time off of my Friday so I can get to my weekend sooner.

For a more direct representation: I’ve worked a variation of times between 7 a.m. and 4:30 p.m. Monday-Thursday and will be off work at 2 p.m. on Friday.

Most of my coworkers work remotely on Friday’s and some other’s work 2 to 3 days remotely as well. Some managers will even tell their employees to sign off and enjoy the weekend early… just because.

Co-Worker chat:

Throughout my career, as I said earlier, there has always been an undercurrent of chatter regarding the 40-hour work week. Below, I’ve outlined the most recent chat I’ve had.

A few of my co-workers, past and present, don’t feel that a 40-hour work week is necessary! Additionally, the pull to work remotely has affected this decision. By cutting the work week down, and allowing employees to work remote, this forces stronger communication between employees.

How you ask? Think back to a time when a co-worker of yours was going to go out on vacation. You knew you couldn’t stroll into their office at any time and ask a bunch of questions. The time you had with them became more precious and you kept the conversation concise, I would assume.

We become happier. Think about how happy you are walking into a three-day weekend. Memorial Day perhaps! You are more rested, accomplish more at home and enjoy your time. Just like a much-needed vacation.

If this was every week, not only would you maximize the time spent working, but I believe you would maximize the free time away from work!

So what are your thoughts?

Do you work a variation of 40 hours a week? Does your company take a page from a few European companies I’ve read about, and pair 40 hours down to 32-35 each week? What are your thoughts? What’s your dream? I’m eager to hear as we step into the weekend- don’t forget to make it a good one & enjoy!


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From my Hart: The Fun Committee

Work life balance, or lack there of, is something I see so many people struggle with. Heck, it’s something I struggle with! What helps the most is when your employer finds this to be important as well.

There is even a statistic that states “58 per cent of those who had not experienced workplace fun had been off sick for 11 or more days…” Onrec further states that office fun alleviates stress and boosts performance and productivity!

My work allows us to work from home when we can and we also have a fun committee at work, which helps with making work a bit more fun! I’ve put together some of our fun committee ideas that I think would be fun for you to try and suggest.

Office supplied lunches / breakfasts

My office has a budget they allot per month to spend on foods for us to cook with, order meals with, etc. They also don’t hesitate to supply us with lunch or a breakfast too just because.

What I’m really looking forward to is a Halloween Feast that we are having at the end of the month. The office is supplying the BOOze, while employees are encouraged to bring monstrous main course, scary sides & devilish desserts to share. This is possible because we have a full kitchen, but getting Panera or doughnuts once a month is simple and effective!

Themed days

We had a cabin fever day this past February. The entire office wass encouraged to wear slippers, pajamas and BYOB (bring your own blanket)! Think of themed days like spirit days in high school: you could do team days, wacky tacky days, or any other fun themed day to get the office involved.

Holiday Parties

We had a St. Partick’s Day party in March. Everyone brings a dish, and we all gather to enjoy the day! We also host a summer party with all of our families and a Holiday Party at the end of the year with our significant others.

You could make up a holiday, or celebrate everyone’s birthday on one day.

Office Outings

Have the office go out and play a round of mini golf or go bowling. Even taking a nice trip to the trail on a summer day is a great idea.What’s important is that you bring your employees together to enjoy being a human- not a work machine. When employees build bonds with one another, they are more willing to help each other out, and enjoy staying with their current employer. At least, that’s how I feel!

I hope you bring up the idea of a fun committee at your office! It’s so great to celebrate holidays, and even life events! My office thew me a surprise engagement party brunch & gave my fiance and I a lovely house warming gift.

Start small, birthday cards are a great way to show others you care. You don’t have to bring the puppies in for a visit, though I highly encourage it, to make a big impact in the work environment. Give the fun committee a try!