From my Hart: Anxiety and Positivity

You guys…. how come no one warned me to slow down and not grow up?

Oh…. yeah, okay I guess quite a few people did. But why didn’t I listen?! Don’t get me wrong, it’s fun, but man is it also really taxing on my anxiety.

After a real conversation Sunday night about buying a house, and pouring over our excel spreadsheets (which are insanely helpful to keep each of our income vs bills each month in line, as well as to show us how we would fair buying a house), I went to bed exhausted.

Jokes on me because I did not sleep! When I’m really anxious over something, I do this awful thing where I dream that I am doing whatever stressed me out. When I used to work as a waitress, I would wake up in the middle of the night thinking I had missed a table. Sunday night, I woke up thinking I was working in our excel sheets.

When I was able to get back to bed, between tossing and turning and these awful stress-dreams, I was having freaky dreams about some of my deepest fears. I woke up before my alarm because I was afraid I was going to miss it, and the day only threw more crap at me.

The Monday-est Monday

I forgot it was PJ day at work until I was less than a minute away from the office.

I forgot to bring in my pajama donations for Casey Cares also.

The Panera was closed and I had to drive there and back to the office twice to get our order, which I placed in advance last week.

Our Tax lady was overwhelmed and I sat on her floor for three hours preparing documents.

I played phone tag with two very important companies all day.

I then spent an hour in the post office after I had gotten off work to make sure all the documents were sent correctly.

I had sass and bull crap throw at me.

And I handled it all with grace. Pure, smile on my face, it really didn’t bother me like I expected, GRACE!

How?!

The Grace of God. I woke up and prayed, asked God to take it away, to help me through everything, and to have a great day.

I grabbed my essential oils, covered myself in them, and got down to business! The above items were a nuance, but no reason to ruin my day! I’m alive, healthy, functioning, capable, and deserved to have a good day!

It is 100% a mental exercise. Did I want to be rude back to people, of course. Did I want to huff and puff at the post office, sure… but those workers had been dealing with last minute tax people all day anyway.

In conclusion 🙂

What you put out in the world will come back to you my friends! Do a quick mental scan. Are you mostly negative (either out loud or mentally to yourself) and do you experience negativity regularly? YES

I know because I’ve been there! I’ve super malleable, and negativity gets me down and I can get out. So I cut out that negative, and negative people, and I spew kindness like the common cold.

Give Kindness & Get Kindness

Be Positive & Get Positivity

You will have to continually work at it, and some days you will fail, but you will be so better for it- I promise.

From my Hart: Spreading Kindness

Hey y’all! I initially posted this to LinkedIn, but thought I could really expand on it here. Since my boyfriend and I started reading #31CreativeWays, From my Hart: 31 Creative Ways Review, I’ve really been more intentional with everyone in my life. That includes my co-workers.

How so? Here’s an example using Valentine’s Day:

It took 30 minutes for our digital marketing manager to create these cards. Only one hour to write 3 things we like about each employee to put on the cards. 10 minutes to stuff mugs with Hershey kisses. Hardly any time at all to hand these out & make peoples day.

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Kendall has a gift y’all… HOW CUTE ARE THESE!?

I’ve been reading a lot of statistics lately that not only do employees feel more valued, but they also are more productive and take less sick time when an employer gives a little recognition & adds some fun to the office. It’s doesn’t have to be a grand gesture… but I promise the results will be.

People in the office are still commenting on how much they loved the cards and candy. I’ve noticed everyone still has their card on display at their desk, and even though the mugs were ones we had in house, the gesture went far beyond what we expected.

Kindness is simple

Making someone’s day does not have to be a grand gesture. It could be something as simple as letting someone in front of you while driving, or holding the door open for someone. Take a few seconds to send a text to someone in your life, letting them know you love them and are proud of them… or whatever you feel moved to say!

Lending an ear, or helping someone who is busy while you have some down time, are all great examples of simple ways to show kindness too. I’ll let you in on a little secret too, spreading kindness makes you feel really good too!

To my readers & followers

I’m so thankful for y’all! You’ve taken the time out of your day, to hear what I have to say, and that is magic! Because of you, I have this wonderful opportunity to do what I love- writing- and that means the world to me. THANK YOU!

Let’s take this FriYAY and spread some kindness around! Have a great weekend you awesome person you.

From my Hart: Kindness

The end of 2017 was a roller-coaster for myself and my family. With the sudden death of my cousin, our December was turned upside down.

What I wish to blog about today is kindness.

I am fortunate enough to say, that I was very much overwhelmed with the amount of kindness that I received after my cousin passed. However, I am feeling very moved by the lack of kindness from those who didn’t know her well, or at all.

Why bother with them?

The question is valid & I would love to say that I avoided the negativity swiftly in the wake of her passing, but that is not true; thanks to social media.

The amount of people who were able to leave their extremely negative and insensitive comments on the breaking new of the accident, are things I am haunted by still today and wish I had never seen.

A plea for kindness

In this new year, I am asking for kindness. I hope from the bottom of my heart, that you would think twice before leaving a negative comment, before cussing out that car that cut you off, before getting angry with someone for not holding the door, etc.

My mother always told me that you never know someones side of the story. The person who cut you off could be rushing off to the hospital; the person who didn’t hold the door could have just lost their job, etc.

But also, that person could just be an @$$, and that is the type of person who needs kindness more than any of us.

I will admit, in the moment this is very hard. But if we all make an effort to try and be more kind, we can really make a difference in this world! The idea pairs well with my post from last week about filling yourself up with positivity.

Kindness always

This doesn’t just mean being kind to someone who wasn’t kind to you. This also means being kind to others who are kind. Spread kindness around like confetti!

Additionally, I encourage you to think twice before commenting on a post or a news article on social media. Think about those effected by the news, and could we all stop with the backhanded negativity? You know what I mean: “I’m so sorry this happened to you, but….”

This is particularly hard, and something I fail at often. With the ease of access today, and the new community groups online, information is zooming into our faces almost as instantly as it happens. Our responses though, do not have to happen so instantly, or at all for that matter.

My goals in kindness

Wish you saw more positive things on social media? Post them.

Want to see more happiness in the world? Smile more. Say hello to others!

Having a bad day? Turn up some happy tunes and focus on something fun upcoming.

Wish people cared a little more? Be intentional with those in your life.

Being kind begins as a choice, and develops into a habit. You may be tested, or take a step back, but so long as you are trying to be kind always, things work out for the best.

 

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From my Hart: Coffee or Tea

Here is an inspiring riddle I heard this on a local radio station the other morning…. for all of my coffee and tea debaters, this is right up your alley!

The scenario:

If you have a full cup in the morning, what is inside? Coffee or tea? You go about your morning, sipping on your beverage of choice, walking down the street, when all of the sudden someone bumps into you.

Your cup is also bumped, because you are holding onto your cup. So what spills out?

Coffee or tea of course.

Okay so…?

The same situation can be applied to you as a human.

If you moving through life and get bumped into, whatever fills you up inside is what will spill out of you.  If you fill yourself with negativity, that is what will come out when you hit a bump in the road.

The goal, is to fill yourself with gratefulness, kindness and positivity, so that when you get bumped by life, those are the things that spill out of you!

*Insert aha moment here*

I hope that hit a core for you as it did for me! Here’s to Friday, and may you fill your cup with your favorite beverage, and your soul with all things positive!

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